This was a moment that no one would think of interrupting!   I looked over at the adjacent table where a pale Asian woman leaned forward, her elbows resting on the table beneath the red and white cloth checkered tablecloth, her fingers drinking in his message that would once again fill her head with answers. The Chocolate Labrador Retriever sat wide-eyed and soaking wet by her side.  He looked around at the small diner.  It was a few hours before midnight.  And it had been raining for days – all day and all night, a hard rain with a cold breeze that left me chilled.

Who was this man? ~ a friend, her husband, a health-care worker!?   It was clear to me that the woman could not see, speak, or hear, had a seeing-eye-dog and was accompanied by a gentleman who cared.  Suffice it to say, their communication was more intense than I had ever seen!

The woman with her male counterpart, moving fingers entwined and palms pressing against each other’s, edged closer to the table, as the couple continued relating without words and without pause.  They laughed a few times.  They ordered dinner and continued talking, hardly letting go of each other’s hands or breaking eye-contact, his hands her lifeline.  The Lab licked her boots as she patted him on the head.

Making every attempt to be inconspicuous, I remained riveted by their connection.   In psychiatry, communication between a man and woman is the most difficult to refine. People with a voice heaving from a functioning larynx most often cannot attain a fraction of the closeness these two people shared with each other – as well as with the other “member of the family.”   Meals were served and the couple’s eye contact was broken ever so briefly.  The woman knew how to use the utensils to cut her steak.  Not a word was spoken yet their bond and relational connection seemed to echo across the room and if it were possible, it would have echoed to the other side of town.

How blessed to be so connected…so in sync, in-tune with another person. Yet, how many spouses hardly know each other?  How many times does one want to say something but is afraid of the other’s reaction?  How many children feel left out when their parents are in the room with them?  How many children grow up never really knowing their mother or father.  Sadly, the answer is:  “Too many spouses and children feel disconnected from each other and unimportant.”  After all, is it not true that importance and a sense of connectedness are what we assign to a special relationship?









Ephesians4: 32   “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”

John 13: 35   “By this, all will know that you are My disciples, that you have love for one another.”

1st John 4: 7 -8   “Beloved, let us love one another for love is of God. and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.  He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.”

Dear Father,

We pray that you will lead us in the way everlasting ~ in Your way, where there is light and love and joy.  We pray that the words we speak and the actions we take may model Jesus when He was on the earth, ministering to the multitudes.  Please speak through us and minister through us as we are Your vessels on earth until You return to unite us with Yourself.  Let us care for and show compassion upon those who need a touch from You. Please, bless us as we step forward in Jesus’ name, Amen.

Psalm 19:14 May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Thy sight oh, Lord, my strength and my redeemer.

carol ann castagna